What is the point of waiting?
That is what millions of teenage girls ask themselves every day as they are debating having sex with their boyfriends again, or maybe for the first time ever.
Does anyone care that I wait? What is the big deal anyways?
“No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
The topic of sexual purity is something that has always been controversial not only among members of society, but among members of the church body as well. Churches tend to handle sexual purity by either never addressing it, or by having mothers force their daughters to never even look at a boy. Nowadays, it is not uncommon for mothers to suggest birth control to their daughters or even to supply them with condoms. How are girls supposed to decide what to believe in when they are being sent so many mixed signals? The Bible is the only place that can give us concrete evidence of God’s desire for us to wait. He alone would do anything to protect our hearts and bodies.
Society today likes to poke fun at virgins any chance they can get. They like to make it seem like virginity is a disease that everyone needs to be cured of to be cool. It teaches boys to be perverse and to feel like failures as virgins, and it teaches us as girls that we are unwanted, a prude, or a tease if we have not let a boy properly deflower us. But God’s word tells us that we are to wait until we are married. We are taken by God, and God only. Not by our boyfriends or society.
“ This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”- Genesis 2:24
I’m not saying that if you abstain from having sex that God is going to send you your own personal knight in shining armor for waiting. I am saying that part of loving God is being obedient to His wishes first and foremost. He is just trying to protect us from the emotional and physical repercussions that can be a direct result of having sex before marriage. If you have had sex before marriage, I do wholeheartedly believe that you can be forgiven and be like a virgin again in God’s eyes. You just need to ask Him and commit to it.
We need to learn to respect each other. Whether that means respecting someone’s decision to wait or not judging a friend who decided not to.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 1 Corinthians 6:19
You are not your own. No matter what society, the world, or any boy will tell you, this is God’s truth. So ask yourself this question when thinking about your sexual purity. Is your body a temple, or is it a shrine to someone or something else?